Suicide does not come out of the blue for reasons only crazy people can understand. People are put in painful situations where they have no control and over a period of time they can’t take it anymore. What they do then depends on them.
Last week, Slate’s Emily Bazelon announced an investigative result about the suicide of Phoebe Prince, a Massachusetts teens whose decease pushed teen suicide prevention into the media spotlight and spearheaded legislative movement against bullying.
Bazelon uses a new lens to look at the Prince case, reframing what has become usual wisdom. The famous press has fixed in place the notion that Prince was driven to suicide after being harassed by social group. I wrote about how the Prince case may have made cyber-bullying, the insidious use of online media to taunt teens, unacceptable. Knowing that research doesn’t show that bullying cause suicide, but Bazelon asks: What if bullies didn’t push Phoebe Prince to suicide?
The bullying-suicide link is popular because bullying is much easier to talk about than suicide. It’s universal – just about everyone knows an important person or else was someone who was bullied or was a bully. Discussion about bullying can open the entrance to talking about suicide. It is been “good” to have Prince’s suicide related to bullying, since it’s brought more attention to suicide prevention than if Prince were, say, a teen with chronic mental illness.
But, Bazelon writes, it turns out that “the whole story is a lot more complex than anybody has publicly permitted for. The events that led to Phoebe’s decease display how hard it is for kids, parents, and schools to cope with bullying, especially when the victim is psychologically vulnerable.”
Prince had been wounding, self-injuring, for some time before she moved to Massachusetts, before the bullying started at her school in South Hadley. Prince was a young woman at risk when she walked into her new school. Cutting is a way of externalizing internal pain. It’s also a risk factor for suicide.
Bazelon’s in-depth piece is compelling reading that examines Phoebe Prince as an personality, sometimes in unflattering ways. It also explains Prince’s interpersonal conflicts at school, the responses of both teens and adults in the school, the legal case, and the opportunities missed by the school to intervene earlier. Bazelon looks at the large picture and sees the complexity, poses questions that might not have easy answers, and stirs controversy. I’m so glad.
As much as it’s been helpful to take Prince’s story in the media as a way of raising consciousness on teenager suicide prevention, as much as it’s been a sea change to think prosecuting kids for bullying other children, and as much as linking bullying to suicide can help both children who are bullied and kids who are suicidal, the simplification that bullying was the source of Phoebe Prince’s death – has been a trouble for suicide prevention. Suicide as an outcome is never simple. I’m happy that Bazelon has exposed that truth.
We are not sure Phoebe could have quit school at her age. She was certainly not allowed to leave the school for the day when the stress was too much for her. She chose the only solution she could think of. That was a momentary impulse not a carefully thought through action. Perfectly healthy teens have problems with impulse control as do most of the rest of us.
In my opinion, the better we understand diseases like depression, the better we can deal with them. Some of the responses agreeing with Emily are virtually superstitious. Sometimes some crazy idea comes into people’s heads out of the blue with no immediate cause and they do something horrible.
Copyright by Lucy, a beautiful girl who likes swimming, shopping online and has a shop with replica coach purses and fashion things.

Dragon Age II will be released by Bioware in March 2011 for PlayStation 3,Xbox 360 and PC, the designer said yesterday.
Dragon Age allowed players to enter the plot line from the perspective of one of many characters ,which launched in November 2009. However, the result seems to be leaning more to the Mass Effect way of doing things. In Dragon Age II, players will take on the character of Hawke, a penniless refugee who rises to power to become the single most important role in the world of Dragon Age .
In Dragon Age 2, Hawke can be played as a male or female, and you won’t be importing and playing as your old character. Like Mass Effect, we imagine we’ll be tasked with the first character and find the name, which already has our creative juices moving. How about “Lady Hawke” for you Michelle Pfeiffer fans?
Copyright 2010 by Angela ,a lovely girl who works as a children’s doctor ,likes shopping online playing online game, and have a coach diaper bags store on the Internet.














