Have You Hugged Your Wife Today?

Parents can completely give their children quite a real feel of unity and safety whether there is a conventional husband, wife and kids all living in the same house of not. And children surely learn harmful styles of relationship while parents fight, are impolite to one another or disregard one another. Children deserve a cheerful home in whatever form it takes, and parents have the best interests of their children at mind.



Whenever you hug your partner, it’s not only a boost for both of you; it’s also good for your children. When they see you cheerful and pleased with one another, it makes their world. In reality, why don’t you make hugs the norm for everybody in your family?



Hugs bring smiles to faces and warmth to hearts. They are uplifting when you’re down, encouraging when you’re in the midst of challenges, and celebratory when you’ve reached your goal. When someone hugs you, it gives you a sense of approval and bolsters your self-esteem. Hugs strengthen friendships, and increase feelings of love, support and loyalty.



And they’re free! So there’s no reason to hold back.



Some parents may hug their children, but think it’s inappropriate to show affection for one another in front of the children. Recently, a therapy client told me that when she was growing up, she never saw her parents display affection towards each other. When her dad came home each evening, he gave her mom one quick, stiff, perfunctory hug-and that was the sum total of the "affection" she ever saw them share. There was no juice in that hug. No love; no joy. Her parents were civil; they were polite; they were friendly.



When she went to her friends’ homes, she saw the lively, loving interactions of her friends’ parents that she longed for in her home too. But it never came. She became embarrassed to bring children to her house because her dinner table was emotionless and rather antiseptic by comparison.



In therapy we worked on learning how to love and show affection-something she should have learned naturally at home.



Have you ever seen your children break into a big, wide grin when you hug your husband? Usually, they love it. If not, maybe they feel left out and jealous because they want to be hugged too. Let them know how valuable they are to you; how much you love and treasure them. Kids want to feel like they belong, so include them in family hugs and be sure to show them how hugs cross gender boundaries. Dads can hug their sons as well as their daughters. Being held, cuddled and kissed is not a sissy thing. It’s a human thing.



When you model affection for your kids, it promotes a more positive attitude which makes them more resistant to challenges in their lives.



Let me tell you how.



1. It models for your kids what healthy love looks like. Parents teach much more by example than by words. And kids imitate what they see much more than what they hear. So when you hug your husband, treat him with respect and show sensitivity to his feelings, you’re teaching your children invaluable lessons in relationship.



Loving relationships don’t just grow behind closed doors in the bedroom. They spill out into the whole house. When you and your husband are playful-enjoying each other and having fun together, it gives your kids the opportunity to see how all encompassing your love is. They absorb the lessons without even being aware of it.



2. It makes your kids feel safe and secure. In a world where strife, dissonance and divorce are rampant, your children want to know that your family is solid and rooted. You can have disagreements with your husband in front of your kids as long as you treat one another respectfully and sensitively. Your children understand that occasionally two people don’t see eye to eye and they need to talk it through and come to a resolution. But when they see you hug, they know their world is safe and in tact.



3. It shows children that affection can be expressed in a variety of ways. Of course, a good part of your love for your husband should be expressed privately. But a great deal of love for family and friends is shown through gentle touch, kind words and thoughtful behaviors. By modeling these three manifestations of love with your husband, you teach your children to be comfortable with affection. They’ll learn to be generous in giving it and generous in receiving it.



4. It teaches your kids how to create their own happy love relationships when they become adults. Kids see plenty of dysfunctional relationships on a constant basis-on TV, in the movies and in the neighborhood. What a gift you can give your children to counterbalance the unhealthy models that surround them. When they see a bad relationship on the screen or in real life, they’ll notice how dramatically it deviates from the standards they’re used to at home. They’ll be much more likely to reject similar situations for themselves and choose healthier relationships.



5. It makes you a happier wife and a better mom. Every time someone hugs you, it reinforces their love for you and increases your joy. Ask any children which he’d prefer: an unhappy mom or a happy one. You already know the answer. When you’re happy, you’re also more tolerant, more patient and more fun to be around.



You’ll add your probability that your children will talk with you, share their emotions with you and be close to you. And that makes you a greater mother. Let your affection flow in abundance. Watch everybody in your family light up when you hug your partner. It’s good for your relationship and it injects happiness into your house.



I think it’s important to mold a fit, affectionate relationship with a husband or partner or kid’s other parent when possible, and I think it’s similarly important and stabilizing to prove for your children what fit love seems like by not staying in a relationship that is void of affection, physical and otherwise.


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