We can’t have friends in our life, and we can have a better life if we have lots of friends. But how we make friends with the people we want to make with? I think it’s easy to make friends when you’re young.
You hardly to have do any work to make it come about. At times, all it requires is often a play date set up by your mother and father, and before you know it, you’re running in the grass and playing with the girl from down the road whom you met 23 minutes earlier.
Or sometimes, you meet your new companion as you both sip apple juice during art class. You both reach for the green crayon and figure you must have everything in common. By the end of the very first day of college, you have a new best friend. And you’re very, very solemn on this reality. In the end, you both love the color green. It’s as simple as that.
Maybe it’s so easy then because, as kids, we aren’t self-conscious and aren’t so concerned with social norms yet. Our world is open, and we’re ready to jump in, head-first.
Wouldn’t it be great if making friends was as easy once we are adults? Sure, if we’re lucky, some of those school chums are still our best friends; that, in itself, is something to be thankful for.
But in the rush of work and life in general, we sometimes find ourselves feeling like an island. It’s not intentional; it just sort of happens. Eventually, we may find ourselves looking to expand our social circle, wanting off that island for good. It can be hard, but incredibly rewarding. And if we put on our “child hats,” we’ll probably see areas of our life that are ripe with potential friends.
The neighborhood
Take advantage of a holiday like the Fourth of July or Memorial Day and invite some neighbors over for a barbecue. The great thing about this one is that the commute is merely a few feet or blocks away, a big plus with me. And when food is involved, it seems everyone comes out of the woodwork.
The gym
You might not want to see people when you’re sweating on the treadmill, there’s that adult self-consciousness creeping in again, but exercising can be the great equalizer. You’re all there for the same reason, so why not break up the monotony of the treadmill with some conversation. In fact, my mother has some “swimming friends” as she calls them that she met while doing her afternoon laps at the Y.
The family
I’m not talking about the Mafia; you should probably avoid befriending members of that group. But your family, in essence, is a built-in buddy system. They’re there for you, and they love you. And, I’ve found, your family gets you in a way that your other friends don’t. Maybe it’s that biological link, and that is something to be very thankful for, every day even when you wonder whether you were placed on your family’s doorstep by mistake.
The work water cooler
This one might sound a little clear, and perhaps you’ve even tried it without success. Work could be stressful, so the important thing here is to bond with your co-workers over non-work things. And, certainly, you will never get it wrong with an easy “Hi,” and asking somebody one easy problem: “How do you think you’re?” These five words could be an ideal icebreaker.
In a word, if you are honest to other people, and want to make friends with the people sincerely, I think it would be easy for you to make friends, then you would have lots of friends in your life.
You hardly to have do any work to make it come about. At times, all it requires is often a play date set up by your mother and father, and before you know it, you’re running in the grass and playing with the girl from down the road whom you met 23 minutes earlier.
Or sometimes, you meet your new companion as you both sip apple juice during art class. You both reach for the green crayon and figure you must have everything in common. By the end of the very first day of college, you have a new best friend. And you’re very, very solemn on this reality. In the end, you both love the color green. It’s as simple as that.
Maybe it’s so easy then because, as kids, we aren’t self-conscious and aren’t so concerned with social norms yet. Our world is open, and we’re ready to jump in, head-first.
Wouldn’t it be great if making friends was as easy once we are adults? Sure, if we’re lucky, some of those school chums are still our best friends; that, in itself, is something to be thankful for.
But in the rush of work and life in general, we sometimes find ourselves feeling like an island. It’s not intentional; it just sort of happens. Eventually, we may find ourselves looking to expand our social circle, wanting off that island for good. It can be hard, but incredibly rewarding. And if we put on our “child hats,” we’ll probably see areas of our life that are ripe with potential friends.
The neighborhood
Take advantage of a holiday like the Fourth of July or Memorial Day and invite some neighbors over for a barbecue. The great thing about this one is that the commute is merely a few feet or blocks away, a big plus with me. And when food is involved, it seems everyone comes out of the woodwork.
The gym
You might not want to see people when you’re sweating on the treadmill, there’s that adult self-consciousness creeping in again, but exercising can be the great equalizer. You’re all there for the same reason, so why not break up the monotony of the treadmill with some conversation. In fact, my mother has some “swimming friends” as she calls them that she met while doing her afternoon laps at the Y.
The family
I’m not talking about the Mafia; you should probably avoid befriending members of that group. But your family, in essence, is a built-in buddy system. They’re there for you, and they love you. And, I’ve found, your family gets you in a way that your other friends don’t. Maybe it’s that biological link, and that is something to be very thankful for, every day even when you wonder whether you were placed on your family’s doorstep by mistake.
The work water cooler
This one might sound a little clear, and perhaps you’ve even tried it without success. Work could be stressful, so the important thing here is to bond with your co-workers over non-work things. And, certainly, you will never get it wrong with an easy “Hi,” and asking somebody one easy problem: “How do you think you’re?” These five words could be an ideal icebreaker.
In a word, if you are honest to other people, and want to make friends with the people sincerely, I think it would be easy for you to make friends, then you would have lots of friends in your life.
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