Churches need to be vocal advocates for marriage

As far as a theory that adult men marry pregnant girlfriend with children as they believe they’ll like that more, I can not believe I will call it lame, but that’s what it is. Much more possible is that adult men tend to be more concerned with giving the young man his name to keep on than a daughter who will possible change her name later. No, not all girls change their names, but the far majority do. That will most probably remain changing, but it’s where we’re at right now.
The first issue is, how the husband and wife is socialized into their roles. If the husband expects traditional gender roles, while the wife doesn’t, then there will be conflict within the family.

The question is about divorce rates due to the gender of children, and the biggest difference nowadays is how women are socialized into their roles as wives for the family, as others pointed out as being in a woman’s favor due to the legal framework of most western societies, as the framework over-corrects in favor of the dissolution of a family by giving women most of the benefits of the power from divorce, in case there are conflicts of interest.

So there are lots of reasons for dissolution where it is mutual, such as money, etc., where research on how five good interactions for every bad one provides a window on how conflict resolution must be a vital skill to learn or get support for, for marriages.

Churches helped out in providing community based social support in the past (since they have spiritual authority), and young marriages require support more than any other category initially, since society will be better served if there are less second and third marriages. And there needs to be growth within a marriage as well, because your inner personal world shouldn’t stay stagnant, which contributes back to the 5 to 1 findings.

“Results from both studies suggest few differences in general types of responses selected by women and men but consistent differences in contingencies of their responses. Development of the adult men’s scripts depended more on the offended party’s initiation of conflict, whereas development of women’s scripts depended more on whether the offending party apologized. Results suggest that adult men may use more personal or independent criteria in representing the management of conflict, whereas women may use more interpersonal or interdependent criteria.”

So, on other words, it’s about reasoning versus using emotions for contingency purposes between adult men and women for conflict resolution where the struggle appears for the dominance of one person’s conflict resolution rules for the direction of the family. There’s more than one way to take on risk for rewards, and for adult men, obtaining rewards is sometimes really not spent on sentiment analysis of all the parties which will or might not be involved. The use of such thinking by adult men does better for initializing performance based work for rewards, but women mitigates networking based social (interpersonal) risk, and so it is a more ancillary consideration in a man’s mind. If there are more realized rewards, there are better interactions coming from a man toward his spouse.

This explanation doesn’t take into accounts, abusive spouses (both genders), and ways women can lead the family (but this goes against the role that adult men want for themselves).Thus male kids lends support to how a person really wants to feel about his family, which is what a lady wants.

I do think a much more rational explanation is that parents tend to be more unwilling to separate boys from their fathers. I don’t have numbers, but aren’t mothers still awarded more custody? Does not divorce generally mean that the kids won’t be living with the dad, or not nearly as much?